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When I first became a Mom, I thought this whole Motherhood thing would be a piece of cake. I mean, seriously, I had been in the workforce since I was 14 years old, and in addition to working so many different types of jobs, I had also been a member of the United States Air Force, so I knew hard work.
I was so wrong though.
Raising children takes so much work, and I’m not just talking about the diaper changes and feedings. You have to entertain children, and teach them everything, from how to eat on their own, to how to put on a tee-shirt and use the potty unassisted. The amount of time invested in a single activity is huge, and for good reason. Maintaining balance and new traditions as a mom is hard work, and you are always on duty, 24/7.
I started up this blog as well as my two shops to help my family maintain; to help my husband not go insane from working so hard. I thought it would be easy as well, that I would be the Ultimate Mom because I would do it all and still have time for my kids.
I was so wrong, again.
It turns out, I’m on duty as a mom 24/7, but I’m also working what feels like 24/7. Between writing posts, taking pictures, creating designs for my shop, talking to brands and customers alike, I have so little time to actually spend with my kids that it sometimes leaves me feeling defeated and depressed. My kids are around me all the time, yet I’m too busy to engage with them on their level for more than a couple of minutes at a time, which seems like a huge injustice to their childhoods and what I set out to be as a mother.
But it’s life, you know? Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Can you relate?
In response to this, I decided I need to change, to adapt, to make room for life, because this is all I have. So I made a commitment to maintaining balance and new traditions by completely unplugging for an hour every day while I’m home with the girls, and spending that time solely invested in them and what they want to do.
I have to say that my kids have been loving this extra attention, and they are excited for this time to come every day, because they know if the phone rings, I won’t answer it. They know my computer will stay closed, and my tablet will stay on the charger. I won’t be placating them with TV so I can finish just one more thing. We play, build forts and bake cookies. We roll around on the floor and giggle and paint each other’s nails. I make this commitment to them because I want to be present for their childhoods, even though I am so busy with my own businesses in the meantime. It’s important to me, and essential for them.
Some things I’ve learned about my kids since I started unplugging:
1| Afton is turning into a little teenager already. She has the funniest attitude, I swear. Everything is always “really? Are you serious?!” Say that with just a touch of Valley Girl, and you’ve got her nailed. No idea where she got that, but it is so funny.
2| Delaney can almost write her name perfectly now, but she’s even better at writing it backwards, or mirror-writing it. It’s so cool to watch, because she does it effortlessly, whereas I would have to focus hard to write a word in mirror, ha ha ha.
3| Vivienne may, in fact, be ambidextrous. She can use two utensils at the same time, can write with both hands, and shows no preference for using her right or left hand. My dad is a bit ambidextrous, but I think Vivienne may have him beat!
We like to try new things during our unplugged time, and when I brought home Lifeway Kefir, I knew I struck gold with the girls.
With probiotics and 11 grams of protein per serving, I have no problem giving the girls this delicious drink as part of our daily tradition. They like to enjoy their Kefir with a nice cookie, as do I!
I’ve found it’s much easier to maintain balance and new traditions when I take the time to enforce them, and stick with it. It’s so rewarding in the end, and it’s something I feel everyone should do, even if it’s only for 15 minutes at a time. Unplug. Enjoy life. Rinse and Repeat.